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Wed Jun 3, 2009, 3:27 PM

Mood: Desperate
Listening to: Vivaldi - The Four Seasons, Summer

There's a special girl in my life whom I've known for over seven years. We've grown so much and learned a lot about ourselves, in that time, and I consider myself extremely lucky for her to be in my life. But after we graduate in the Class of 2012, we'll most likely go our separate ways. So where could we go from here?

I've been hearing things from my friends, and they're telling me that she's starting to get desperate. She is wondering whether I still like her, but also even if I "like her, like her" (if you catch my drift). I don't know if I've been doing things that have been making her curious or upset, but my friends are saying that she may be starting to flip out, and if I don't talk to her now about our relationship status, or even stepping it up, things could be disastrous. The thing about my friends is that I really don't know if I can trust them, or not. They may just be trying to set us up to something that, to us, is completely uncalled for.

They think that deep down I really want to express my truer feelings towards her, but I'm possibly just too shy to do it. I hate it when my own timid behaviors bring me down. At the same time, I just can't get inside of her head. Girls are so confusing. Arnold Haultain once said that "A woman can say more in a sigh than a man can say in a sermon." Even the slightest moments that I may not even notice could be sending mixed message towards me.

Do I love her?
Does she love me back?

I just don't know what to do...

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~XoX-Godiva-XoX Jun 3, 2009, 7:34:15 PM

I think you should call her up, tell her to meet at a special place for the two of you. Don't think about what you're going to say, girls like when you're really saying what you feel... not sounding like you've practiced it. Even if it isn't love, just tell her how you feel. Don't be scared to be dorkie or w/e, a lot of girls think its cute and could help your case a lot. Just cuz you care will be gradding.... in THREE years.... doesn't mean that ends your relationship. You got at least three years left of school, life is short buddy... don't let your fears or shyness stop you. I learned that the hard way. If you're unsure how she's feeling.. just ASK her.. and if she gives you the normal "if you dont know im not telling, you should know" crap.. just tell her you're worried and don't want to think she's something she may not be. Just have a heart to heart.

~Miligold Jun 4, 2009, 4:06:24 AM

I think that a heart to heart is long overdue for us. It might be able to get rid of some of the confusion that might have been going around, and perhaps we will be able to discover even more between us. Thanks.

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"The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved."
-Mother Teresa

~marian0 Jun 4, 2009, 7:02:40 AM

Friends can say lots of things, but each person is a world of their own. What may seem great for someone, may not be the best for someone else. Even if their intentions are good, you can't really rely on what they say 100% of the time.
Figure out what you want in your life and how you plan to achieve it. At the end, if you manage to take the relationship to another level, it will only be You and Her.... and nobody else. So why should your friends feel like they can determine what you have to do? It's your future after all and you're the only one who's going to live it. Just like you mentioned, you're about to graduate and those "friends" will also go through separate paths. They probably won't even stay to see what was the result of their advice, you know what I'm saying?

All in all, (and I will fall guilty of being one of those who give advice when it's none of my business

) I think you should stop handling the possibility of a relationship as a status to be achieved or a formal situation and loosen up a little. Love is something that you live. Stay true to your feelings and eventually your affectionate side will pop out naturally.

There are many types of relationships. You may have noticed around you how it works. There are couples that just like each other and are together just because they're attracted physically, there are couples that simply get together because they feel lonely, and so on...
But the best kind of relationships, as I've had experienced with my girlfriend, is the relationship that builds up from a strong friendship, the kind of friendship built with trust and reliability on each other.
So, you may want to start by opening your sentimental side with her. Tell her about your dreams and your hardships (in a way that you hint her that she can trust such things with you too) without appearing weak or insecure. Show her your emotionally strong side. Girls like that.

Oh man, entire books could be written about this. Just keep your mind open and soften up your soul. If one thing I know for sure is that if you ever want to be loved, you first have to learn how to love yourself.

~Sir-Fluffums Jun 4, 2009, 8:34:54 AM

I don't have the time or patience to write long paragraphs like the one above mine, but all i can say is good luck to you.

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